Two First Date Advice Tips!
The power of the first date should never be underestimated on the influence it can have on our emotions and behaviours. With the excitement of meeting someone new comes the expectation that they could be the one we are looking for. With these emotions within us driving our expectation levels we can have the tendency to accommodate others that we shouldn’t. So when you’re on that first date and you start to get to know the other person it’s important to remember two things that help lead to love. Acceptance of others and compromise. Although you may not fully understand someone completely after the first date you can get an indication of your compatibility with them and apply the first date advice below to determine if this really could lead to something serious.
If you meet someone and in many ways they work for you and the attraction exists then that’s great. However if they have something you would like to change and that something is part of their fundamental characteristics then you have to ask the question:
Do I have the right to demand someone changes?
Or do you merely have the right to
decide how much time you spend with them. Once we start to try to change others
we can expect friction. I am sure many people have learnt this lesson the hard way, I certainly didn't understand this concept for a long time in my search for love. If we understand and accept that others are what they are and we have no right or responsibility to change them, it releases us from demanding something of ourselves that we cannot achieve. Since I have truly understood this concept my human relations have become much calmer I simply do not expect others to change - they are who they are - but I do decide on how much time I want to spend with them. So if they are not fitting in comfortably with your expectations the first date advice is to consider if you wish to continue seeing them or find someone who does fit.
Stay True To Yourself!
As discussed in our relationship advice article we
all have to compromise to a degree or we would never agree on so many
different things. If we over compromise ourselves we can potentially become unhappy or
anxious. If we can’t both agree on a shade of blue when we have 40
different shades in front of us in a DIY store then how would we potentially
deal with the more serious choices in life. If we have to over compromise with someone we are setting ourselves up for failure and another potential disaster.
If you are looking to start dating online our best first date advice is to find a site that suits you. There are generally two types of online sites, flirting websites which is much more open adult orientated and love match making which is used by those looking for a long term relationship. You will also need to learn creating an online profile, how to identify the good from the bad and much more to find love.